Emotional connections between characters

I love to write. It is one of my greatest joys in life. I love to create people and places and situations and connections. I really do.

But I also hate it. Because sometimes I know what I want to happen, what I want someone to be like, but when I go to put it down on paper, I don't know. It doesn't come out right. Or at all. It's flat and lifeless, and a character whom I love and cherish and want to be awesome, is just not at all anything I thought they were.

And I don't know why this is! I can see them, hear them speak, but I can't for the life of me write them the way they are in my head. They morph into something I don't want them to be, and that I can't fix.

It pisses me off. It's like trying to draw something... a tree, when you're not an artist. You could be looking directly at a tree at the time of sketching, but the result may not look like a tree at all. And it's frustrating, because you can see the tree, you know what you need to do, but you just can't do it. And there's no real concrete answer why it seems impossible to put that tree limb at the correct angle when the original one is two feet in front of you. I hate it so much.

I'm saying this because I'm writing right now about two brothers, twins, and their reaction in a certain situation. And I can write those two just fine, they are like best friends to me, I've been writing them for so long. So I have their personalities and speech patterns down very well.

But for some reason beyond my comprehension I cannot write a believable brotherly bond between them. They love each other, one is quite protective of the other, but I just cannot get that down on paper like it is in my head. Whatever I write just comes off as flat, or fake, or overly dramatic. Not believable at all.

I cannot write this connection between these two characters like it is in my head, and I was wondering if anyone had any tips as to how to get over this. That is, if anyone will read this entry, which I seriously doubt. But hey, if you do, and feel like commenting, start a discussion! It will make my day and take my mind off of my frustration.

Later!

p.s. I wrote this in one go and haven't gone back over it. I have terrible grammar and spelling skills, and I tend to repeat points needlessly. I apologize.